Let’s talk about one side of the referral problem - the flood, not the drought. Some teachers hold back on referrals until a student is lighting small fires in the hallway. Others? They’ll send a student your way if they so much as frown during circle time.

Over-referrals are real, and they can clog up your schedule, create frustration, and sometimes mean students aren’t getting the help they actually need. But the goal isn’t just fewer referrals; it’s better ones. Here’s how you can work with teachers to figure out when a referral makes sense and how to build a system that helps everyone breathe a little easier.

Work With Them

I often think that teachers who over-refer are really just very excited about the services we have to offer. I usually sit with them and ask them what skills they are hoping to build in a student or a group of students. If a large portion of the class seems to need skill-building, I’ll offer to teach extra classes in addition to my normal schedule.

For a small group of students, I work with them to problem solve using the TIPS model. I always want teachers, parents, and administration to feel supported by the school counseling program. At the same time, I really don’t have a magic wand. By requesting that teachers work with me, we build a better support network for students without me having to own the entire problem.

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Educate Them

At the beginning of the year, I do a presentation with my staff on counseling services, explaining that a counselor offers tiered services, similar to academic intervention tiers. After completing a needs assessment, I try and follow up by visiting teacher PLC and plan meetings to discuss needs and services that will help us reach the most students. I share data with them through newsletters and meetings so they get a better understanding of my use of time.

During School Counselor Week, I share with them information on the services and role of the counselor, for example, that we provide short-term counseling and not long-term therapy.

Lastly, I use punch cards made from VistaPrint, for students and teachers to have a reminder of meeting dates, but also to give them a visual for how many times (approximately 5) that I meet with students. I think the punch cards help increase the knowledge that we provide short-term solution-focused sessions, ideally with an end date or transition to outside services.

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Be Clear

I think getting accurate, needed referrals comes down to a teacher's understanding of counseling services and my sticking to my systems. I meet with each grade level to assess their needs, develop a plan for students we know will need services immediately, go over how they can make a referral, and when they should. 

Also, I have to be firm about what services are needed. I do not need to see each student in small groups or individually. I can provide strategies for a teacher or push-in for classroom support. This helped ensure that services weren't spread too thin and helped teachers understand the decision-making process.

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What do you do when the referrals are pouring in?

Share your tips for making it work below! 


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Last updated: 01/06/2026

  • I know that a student needs to feel understood. They need someone they know they can trust and have the resources to help them. So, we as teachers need to be active listening and attentive.

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